Rejection: Advice from Sister to Sister
September 19, 2016
Rejection comes in many forms-maybe from a team, a future university or maybe even a boy. Unfortunately, it is one of life’s not-so-great inevitabilities. But on the bright side,we get to choose how to take the bad news- by either developing from it or letting it break us.
Ever try out for a team? Ever not make the cut? We’ve been there. Junior Alexandra Fonseca recalls a time in middle school when she was rejected from the basketball team.
She laughs, “I was in eighth grade! I had to make the team!”
She recalls that though this sounds like a minute issue, at the time it was a big deal for her and was her first real rejection. Fonseca is now an active member of the lacrosse team here at Academy and loves every bit of it.
![Fonseca, pictured here at a St.Lawrence middle school volleyball game.](https://www.achonaonline.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/09/Screen-Shot-2016-09-19-at-9.51.57-AM-475x467.png)
Fonseca, pictured here at a St.Lawrence middle school volleyball game #gloup.
With so many great opportunities at Academy and so little spots, sometimes we don’t make it. Senior Ann- Marie Heath recalls a time when she was not admitted into the club, TLC.
She recalls, “I was disappointed and angry, feeling like I deserved it. I had never been rejected before.” But luckily she says, “I joined the swim team and still felt involved in the school.”
![Heath pictured here at the 2015 Regions Swim Meet with teammates Chloe Paman, Lara Lontoc and Mary Kate Urbanski.](https://www.achonaonline.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/09/Screen-Shot-2016-09-19-at-9.54.10-AM-475x268.png)
Heath pictured here at the 2015 Regions Swim Meet with teammates Chloe Paman, Lara Lontoc and Mary Kate Urbanski.
For some, the most brutal rejections come from a significant other. Sophomore Julianna Jett says, “I was once rejected by a boy, it sucked.”
She then remembers, “I dealt with it by hanging out with my girlfriends and talking a lot.”
As the college application season kicks off, many seniors are very excited about getting into schools, yet just as many are worried about not getting into their dream school.
Senior and Student Body President, Ally Wehle admits, “As much as I want to get into my dream school, I know that I might not. I’ll be very anxious about opening the letter, and crying then having to break the news to my parents.”
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They say when you make a plan, God laughs.
In addition, Senior Lizzie Dolan agrees that she would be bummed if she opened a rejection letter yet she counters, “I have this weird thing where I truly think fate exists and that there is just an unmovable way of life where no matter what you do, you were destined for this path. So I also think that it would be a sign from God telling me that my future I had planned isn’t His future for me.”